Tuesday, January 16, 2018

January - a time of new beginnings

January - it's the time for new beginnings. It might be you are starting or thinking about a new project, relationship or just about wanting to be happier.

In our busy lives, it is easy to be distracted by all sorts of fun frivolous amusements. The internet, social media, box sets, computer games and the list goes on. However if we write down our goals or reflect on our death bed, would we wish we spent more or less time on these things?

We also live with so much fear and anxiety these days. It's hard to remember the ebbs and flows of life which is never always down or up. There is constant change. How do we deal with these challenges? How can we make the best of what we have and achieve even more?

For 2018, I have started on my next project. A long haul flight facilitated this and prevented furthet procrastination. I've realised the way forward for me involves three things. These are reflection, planning and just working to make it happen.

We are now half way through January and before long it will be the beginning of February. It's a new year and a chance to make sure you don't look back on 2018 and wish you had done more. Good luck with your goals and plans. May you find success in your journey. Wishing you beauty, health and happiness.

Saturday, January 6, 2018

2018 The Search for Beauty, Health and Happiness - New Year's Resolutions and Goals

As the new year approached and ended, we reflect on 2017 and consider how we can continue to find beauty, health and happiness in 2018. So 2017 wasn't the worst year ever, unless you're Harvey Weinstein. Nor is 2018 going to mean that you will necessarily top Prince Harry and have the wedding of the year. Crudely put, 2017 made winners and losers. Time will tell whether they can emulate their success or reverse their misfortunes. The road ahead for each of us remains unchartered. We all have our critics and supporters. At the end of the day, it is only how we feel about ourselves that matters. 

Many years ago, I decided that I should set out my goals. I realised that the human resource exercise I had to do annually for work should be something that I should apply to my personal life.

Over the years, I have realised some of these goals. I got my dream body, I was healthier than I've ever been, it felt like I was on the path to my dream job, I've fallen in and out of love, bought my almost dream home for now, discovered new hobbies which became life passions and travelled to some of the most amazing places. 

This process of setting out my resolutions and goals has helped me to prioritise and work out what I want and how I can be truly happy.

Broadly, my goals were categorised. These categories were as follows:

  1. Family
  2. Friends
  3. Work
  4. Finances
  5. Travel
  6. Beauty
  7. Health
  8. Happiness
  9. Creativity
  10. Large purchases

Writing down my goals helped me to remain focused. I also found that identifying short and long term goals meant that some of those pipe line dreams didn't get lost or forgotten.

My beauty, health and happiness goals for 2018 are all very much centred around one thing. I've also come to a realisation as to a new goal I have. The process of time and distance away from my everyday always reveals what the heart wants. Learning from the experiences and lives of others provides clarity and wisdom.

2017 was full of disappointments  but I did achieve much also. Hopefully this time next year, I can say I have been successful and it has not been as rough a road as this last year. I wish you every success in your search for beauty, health, happiness, 2018 resolutions and goals.

Sunday, December 31, 2017

2017 - The Queen's Speech, the future and the home

The Queen's speech reflects the ups and downs of 2017. In her televised Christmas day speech, she mentions the London and Manchester bombings, Grenfell Towers, Prince Phillips' retirement, the Commonwealth and the home. It is reflective and seeks to unify us. The topic of home is what makes this speech remarkable and deserves further consideration. Throughout 2017, home has always been there, but it has been lost for some.

We have spent the year focusing on technology, Brexit and Trump. I wonder though whether we need to think more about the home, our values and how we treat people. What sort of city, country and world are we creating? How will future generations look back upon us? What will they consider to be our greatest achievements and failures? What have we done about poverty and homelessness?

Our journey takes us down many different roads. What road will we take in 2018? Do we see the glass as half empty or half full? What will we prioritise? What will we do for others versus what will we do for ourselves? The secrets to beauty, health and happiness is more than developing a glossy facade. It is more than a moment in time. The secrets to beauty, health and happiness might involve resolutions, but it will also involve perspiration and inspiration. We need to try to think outside of the box, dare to be and do something different.

The world continues to change and evolve. I marvel at the extinction of dinosaurs. They were unable to adapt and now they are a mythical creature for small children to wonder at, for our entertainment in Hollywood movies and one of many exhibits in our museums. As we relax at home on our phones, tablets and computers, let's pause and reflect on what will become of us. What comes next?

Saturday, December 23, 2017

The Secret To Healing

What is the secret to healing? What do you do if life sucks? It could be grief, sadness, being bullied, relationship problems, depression or winter blues. All is bleak. You eat, sleep and exist.

Over the years, you face challenges. No one warned you how awful things would get. The older you become, the harder it is. 

Time heals. It is the lesson I have learnt. You need to take it one day at a time and small steps forward.

The top five things that can help with healing are:

1. Sleep and nutrition - these are key to physical and emotional healing. Invest in healthy eating and sleep at least 8 hours. Treat yourself to some of your favourite foods to get that feel good endorphin hit.

2. The analytical part of your brain also plays an important role in pulling you out of your funk. Learn about a topic that interests you. It helps to step away from the emotional rut into a logical black and white factual world.

3. Exercise helps to make you physically and emotionally stronger. Even if you start with just a little and then build on it.

4. Family, friends or even online forums alleviate that I am alone and no one understands me sense of helplessness.

5. Escapism gives you a breather from the burden and weight of whatever is causing you distress. For me, this involves colouring in pictures, box sets, reading teen fiction, you tube videos of I love Lucy and day dreaming.

It is hard. It does suck. There is no easy way. There are times when a good cry is needed. You need to accept the situation and these feelings will pass or fade eventually. Don't be too hard on yourself. Look for the positive and find your way out of the darkness.

If you need to, ask for help. There are people out there who can be there for you. It seems like it is a harsh and unkind selfish world at times. However, sometimes people will surprise you.

Good luck and take care of yourself.

Notes: ColorMe is a free app available on Google play. Now tv in the UK, Netflix and other providers offer a free trial period to watch tv box sets, try your local library for access to free books or electronic books and a search of I love Lucy on youtube provides free episodes. The teen fiction I read included Gossip Girl and the Carrie Diaries. 

Tuesday, June 28, 2016

The British Referendum - Brexit, the EU, Freedom of Movement and What's Next?

On 23 June 2016, Britain held a referendum on whether it should remain a part of the EU and they will now exit the European Union. The country and world were shocked by the result. The elite choked on their scones and English footballers were so distracted they suffered an embarrassing defeat to Iceland. The financial markets have predictably reacted to the economic and political uncertainty, but also to their assumption that the referendum result would be remain.